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Dear my kid’s best friend’s mother, 

Shut up. Shut THE FUCK up. 

I can’t stop you from making your child, YOUR CHILD, unwelcome in your house, but you FUCKING don’t decide how I feel about her staying at my place. Don’t you DARE accuse her of being an imposition on us. Don’t you DARE tell her that she’s being “unfair to us by staying here”. I really don’t get why you’re going out of your way to try and make her feel unwelcome in this world - what are you hoping to achieve? What purpose does your spite serve?

You don’t get to decide how I feel, or if she’s welcome to stay under my roof or not. *I* get to to that, and she *IS* welcome here anytime. 

Not shut the fuck up and leave her alone. 

from Tumblr

Date: 2017-06-01 05:29 am (UTC)
genarti: Knees-down view of woman on tiptoe next to bookshelves (Default)
From: [personal profile] genarti
Poor kid. I'm really glad she's got your kid as a friend and you to give her a home she is welcome in, but poor kid to have a mother who talks to her like that.

Date: 2017-06-01 05:32 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] tealin
Speaking only from my own experience of being raised with the values of 'don't bother people', 'take up as little space as possible' and 'don't invite yourself to the party', I have to wonder if that mom grew up in an abusive situation where she internalized and universalized the idea that one must stay out of the way of others, and that mere presence is being 'in the way.' It may not come from a place of spite or a deliberate effort to undermine her daughter's confidence at all, though of course that is an inevitable result...

Possibly politically incorrect question, but: are they French Canadian?
Edited (for ongoing low-level self-interested ethnological processing) Date: 2017-06-01 06:04 am (UTC)

Date: 2017-06-01 06:09 pm (UTC)
tealin: (Default)
From: [personal profile] tealin
Ah, traditional family values! How nice to see they transcend culture and language.

Sounds like an awful situation for V, especially at an age when you're old enough to know what's going on but unable to escape it. I hope she spends a lot more time at your place before they leave.
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